Could I Have a Problem with Alcohol? What to Look For and How to Get Help
- Debra Anson
- Nov 9
- 3 min read
Many people use alcohol to relax, celebrate, or cope with stress — and for some, it remains a casual part of life. But for others, drinking can gradually become a source of concern rather than comfort.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Do I have a problem with alcohol?” you’re not alone. Asking this question is an important and courageous first step toward awareness and healing.
When Drinking Becomes a Concern
Alcohol affects everyone differently. What begins as occasional social drinking can slowly shift into a pattern of drinking to cope with emotions, stress, or difficult life circumstances.
A problem with alcohol doesn’t necessarily mean you drink every day — it’s more about why and how you drink, and what impact it’s having on your life.
You might want to take a closer look at your drinking if you notice:
Drinking more or more often than you planned
Needing alcohol to relax, sleep, or cope with emotions
Feeling guilty, ashamed, or defensive about your drinking
Experiencing memory lapses or blackouts
Friends or family expressing concern about your drinking
Difficulty stopping once you start
Neglecting responsibilities or losing interest in things you used to enjoy
If several of these sound familiar, it doesn’t automatically mean you have Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) — but it could be a sign that alcohol is playing a larger role in your life than you’d like.
🔍 Understanding Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD)
Alcohol Use Disorder is a medical condition defined by the inability to control or stop drinking despite negative consequences. It can range from mild to severe, and it affects both the brain and body.
Common signs of AUD include:
Craving alcohol or spending a lot of time thinking about drinking
Needing more alcohol to feel the same effects (tolerance)
Experiencing withdrawal symptoms such as shakiness, anxiety, or sweating when you stop
Continuing to drink despite problems with health, work, or relationships
AUD is not a lack of willpower — it’s a complex condition influenced by biology, environment, stress, and emotional factors. The good news: it’s treatable, and recovery is possible.
💬 Self-Reflection Questions
Sometimes a few honest questions can help clarify whether alcohol is helping or harming you. Ask yourself:
Can I stop drinking when I want to — and do I want to stop?
How do I feel emotionally when I’m not drinking?
Am I using alcohol to escape uncomfortable feelings?
Is alcohol interfering with my health, relationships, or goals?
If you answered “yes” to several, it may be time to reach out for support.
🌿 What You Can Do if You’re Concerned About Your Drinking
1. Talk to a Professional
A licensed therapist or substance use counselor can help you explore your relationship with alcohol in a nonjudgmental space. Together, you can assess your drinking patterns, identify triggers, and discuss safe options for reducing or stopping use.
2. Explore Recovery Support Options
Support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), SMART Recovery, or Refuge Recovery provide peer connection and accountability. Many people find that sharing experiences with others reduces shame and builds hope.
3. Set Boundaries or Take a Break
You might start with a short “dry period” — 30 or 60 days without alcohol — to see how your body and emotions respond. Tracking your mood, sleep, and energy can reveal a lot about how alcohol impacts your well-being.
4. Address Underlying Stress or Trauma
Alcohol is often used to numb emotional pain. Working with a therapist can help you heal the root causes — such as anxiety, depression, or trauma — so you can develop healthier coping strategies.
5. Consider Medical Support if Needed
If you drink heavily, it’s important not to stop abruptly without consulting a doctor. Medical supervision may be needed to manage withdrawal safely. There are also medications that can help reduce cravings and support long-term recovery.
A Message of Hope
If you’re worried about your drinking, know this: you’re not alone, and there is no shame in seeking help. Recognizing a problem is not a failure — it’s a powerful act of self-awareness.
Recovery isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress, healing, and learning new ways to live with greater peace, health, and self-respect.
Every day you choose awareness and honesty, you’re taking steps toward freedom. Help is available, and healing is possible.
Need help? Let's talk.
Debi Anson LCSW CAADC
616-268-2787